Don't You Dare Open a Door for Me!

Article from Townhall here. But in summary, female author complains about an article in the Washington Post that called chivalry condescending and blames feminism for the fact that more men didn't die on the Costa Concordia.

Comments:

"If everyone is polite and helpful to everyone else, everyone is happier than they would be otherwise. This shouldn't be a surprise to anyone, and it shouldn't have anything to do with the person's sex."

Agreed.

But one reaps what one sows with their behavior.

And I do not consider feminism, which is a form of leftism. to be an ideology that believes in polite behavior. Quite the contrary. They have made their gains largely by being hostile, impolite, and demeaning.

But men, once again, are supposed to smile when we are being kicked in the teeth and we are supposed to say, “Thank ma’amsir, may I have another?”

I’ve had enough women sneer at my gentlemanly behavior that I am now hesitant to be gentlemanly to anyone. If I take that chance and someone is rude, they get a very nasty response, far nastier than they would ever have expected. I like that look of shock on their faces. They need to know that politeness begets politeness and rudeness begets rudeness. Middle class men have been the scapegoat and the punching bag long enough.

But the short of the story is that, once again, feminists, which are a form of leftist, want the absolute best of everything and they want everyone to be nice to them and praise them while they are destroying others.

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I experienced November 6, 2012. My gentlemanly-ness got tossed on the “GFY” pile for good.

Strangers get NOTHING from me. An Obama-supporting looking woman with a kid? Open your own f*cking door. Some as*hole in a Prius that wants my parking spot? I shut my directional off and let them pass by. Patience at the grocery store when some jerk-off can’t scan their items at the self check out? Now I say: “People are waiting!” and swear. “What the f**k” has become very popular for me to say.

I’m done. Elections have consequences. As soon as I’d crawl on my ass-cheeks over broken glass to avoid asking a lib for help, don’t ask me for anything either.

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I’m 32 and recently married. My wife, while we were dating, was constantly barraged by women asking her, “Where did you find him?” I open the door for her when we go to the car. I hold doors for her. I always walk with her so that I’m protecting her (i.e. nearest to traffic on a sidewalk), and when we’re in a restaurant, I always face the restaurant to be aware of who is coming and going and I can react if danger comes in.

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If chivalry it's so demeaning, then I think we should stop being so chivalrous to the welfare class.
Isn't socialism a system where producers are forced to be chivalrous and generous to the "less fortunate"?
How come it's not considered demeaning when coupled with handing out vast amounts of dough?
It's devastating on the producer class, but who cares about them.

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If I think they’re a leftist, I want to make their day miserable.
“Another a$$hole who voted for the communist in the White House,” is one of my favorites. And, yes, I say it loud enough that they hear me and have no misunderstanding what they say.

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 "A few years ago, I was passing through an office building’s glass front door and held it open for the young woman immediately behind me. It’s just the way I was raised, I guess. She was outraged and told me that she was insulted that I would do such a thing. So, I looked her directly in the eye and slowly, deliberately, shut the door in her face."
 
I find that it helps to look them straight in the eye just before you hold the door.
Give them the look that says, “I’m being polite, the way I was raised. I expect a thank you, but I’ll be fine if you weren’t raised that way. But if you are rude, don’t think I’m going to apologize. I’m going to rip you a new a$$hole and I’m going to enjoy doing it.”

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I’m so sick of [liberal voters'] smug, “I am extremely intelligent and so I always vote for the socialist” smiles that I just look for the opportunity to ruin their day.

Another favorite is when I see them on the road with an Obammie the Commie bumper sticker to pass by scratching my cheek with my middle finger, the same way Obammie the Commie did (isn’t he so hip, he saw that Seinfeld episode). And I do it long enough for them to know I know what I’m doing.

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“Womens studies”. Huh. Is that where they learn how to wash dishes, iron and mop the floor?

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The feminists are easy to spot; don’t bother being polite to them. The rest of us you can spot - we smile and are polite, and when you open doors for us, we let you know with a nice ‘thank you.’

I have noticed more and more men opening doors and being chivalrous in other ways; I think it is a sign that feminism is waning, even here in CA, and not a moment too soon. What a disgusting, man-hating way of acting.

I even got whistled at the other day; I thot it was very sweet. Made me laugh.

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"A few years ago, I was passing through an office building’s glass front door and held it open for the young woman immediately behind me. It’s just the way I was raised, I guess. She was outraged and told me that she was insulted that I would do such a thing. So, I looked her directly in the eye and slowly, deliberately, shut the door in her face."

I did the same exact thing a few weeks ago at a convenience store. She went and complained to the store manager that I was rude and slammed the door in her face.

When I explained to him, exactly what happened, he told her that he thought I was owed an apology. She went into a screaming tirade! He then threw her out of the store for upsetting his other customers.

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My daughter got in front of an elderly man and opened the door for him. He thanked her politley and went into the store. I saw tears in his eyes and a smile on his face.

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For people I’m with or I know, sure. Strangers, SOL. If you look like a liberal zombie, I’ll make the effort to be rude.

I was raised to hold doors, etc. But, the leftists have their war that they’re conducting and I’m not going to to play nice anymore while they do it. If/when the time comes that “things” are escalated, I’m ready.

(Re-)elections have consequences; I’m doing my part to “take my ball(s) and leave”. I don’t care anymore; stay away from me.

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“sometimes open hostility is the way to go!!”

100% completely agree with you. The RATS win by doing that. It’s long past time that “our” side wakes up and realizes the game has radically changed (and not for the better).

You either adapt to win or remain static and lose.

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Chivalry isn't dead at all. I have the door held open all the time for me and love it. But then again, I live in a city that is highly populated with active duty and retired military. Where men are still men.

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Feminists hate chivalry and gentlemanly behavior. they probably hate that when I walk with my wife, I walk on the curb side.

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I have taught my two sons to hold open a door for ladies and the elderly. I have also taught them that if they get a classless response from a woman for holding the door open for them to flat out tell them: “I’m sorry ma’am, my Dad taught me to hold open the door for a Lady, he didn’t teach me how to recognize your kind.” and then walk off.